(Maybe this will let Sisyphus procrastinate for another minute.)

People aren’t obligated to deal with you.  They have to decide whether the friendship is a net gain.  If there’s something you do that bothers them, they can ask you to change it.  But if it’s really ingrained, part of your character, and you can’t change, then they need to think about whether it outweighs the good things about you.  Maybe it’s really a minor thing, compared to what they get; but if there are more negatives than positives, then they need to let go.

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